Your ability to create the kinds of relationships you want in life is limited by biology, by time, and by who you think you are.

Of these, the first two cannot be changed.

The third can.

Who do you think you are?

Your self concept can be an inspiration, lifting you higher and higher, or a brick in your belly, keeping you down.

If you have a brick in your belly, the best thing to do, right away, is to become aware of who you currently think you are, so you can begin to question it.

Awareness itself leads to natural change, guaranteed.

So here's an exercise for you:

1. On the top of a piece of paper or computer document, write: "I tend to think that I--"

2. Now write 20-30 endings, quickly, without censoring, in the manner of a brainstorm. If you run out of steam, push until you get to at least 20.

3. Contemplate.

And keep contemplating, over time. The best within you will thank you for it.